Friday, July 30, 2010

Things Loved In July

1. S'mores


The G&D household kicked off this month with our annual 4th of July party which included one of my favorite treats--s’mores! I set up a s’mores stand in our backyard by the firepit and guests had their choice of honey or chocolate graham crackers, and Hershey’s milk chocolate or Reese’s peanut butter cups for their chocolate filling. Once the sun went down, G fired up the pit and we toasted marshmallows (I like mine burned to a crisp) and ate our s’mores while watching the fireworks show. Delicious!

2. Mosquito Repellent


My blood must taste like filet mignon for mosquitoes because those little bastards eat me alive the second I step outside! I hate being caught without bug spray so I was pretty excited to see that OFF! makes individually wrapped insect repellent towelettes that I can toss in my bag and have on hand wherever my skin goes. Take that little buggers!

3. Crocs
I cannot believe that I am the proud owner of a pair of Crocs. I have always hated these shoes! “But they’re so comfortable!” everyone would say in defense of their holey foam-wrapped feet. “I don’t care if it feels like walking on clouds,” I’d reply. “I’d never put something that ugly on my feet!”

Until now.

I was walking past a Crocs store earlier this month and curiosity got the better of me so I decided to go in--just to try them on and feel what all the fuss was about. There was no way in hell I was going to actually buy a pair...

Until I did.

These are the ones I got, and dammit, I love them:


4. My Girls Weekend Getaway!


Earlier this month I made a trip to the Twin Cities to visit my friend Allison, who lives there, and my friend Beth, who was in town from Alabama for a conference. It was my first weekend away from Kate, but who better to spend it with than two of my favorite Whores? We had a great time catching up, eating, drinking, exploring the city, dodging tornado warnings, and seeing Eclipse! Which brings me to...


5. Eclipse


FINALLY! After the first Twilight movie turning into the biggest letdown of my life, and the second one leaving me lukewarm, they finally got it right! I absolutely loved Eclipse. Loved it! Maybe it helped that my expectations were incredibly low and that I’ve had two movies to adjust to RP’s acting and the caked on vamp makeup--but hey, I’ll take it! And I’ll gladly see it again. And maybe even again...and again...

Wednesday, July 28, 2010

Momnesia?

When Kate was two months old I read something in a parenting magazine that I still haven’t been able to get out of my mind. It was the advice column and the question was from a new mom who was feeling miserable. Seeking support, she joined a mommy/baby group but all the other mothers there seemed blissfully happy as they talked about how wonderful it felt to be a new mom. This woman didn’t feel the same way and she wondered if she should speak up or just quit the group.

The advice columnist’s response?

Those other moms are lying!

She went on to add that no new mom is that happy and they’re all either lying to each other or themselves. End of story.

"But...I’m that happy," I thought as I read and re-read the columnist’s response, eyes wide, mouth agape. "What is wrong with me?" I wondered. "Am I one of those crazy moms in denial??"

Here’s the thing--when it came to the first year of parenting, I was prepared for it to be sheer hell. I'd heard all the horror stories from parents who'd weathered the storm and made it through alive with their body parts, sanity, and marriages barely intact. I took vigorous mental notes about how utterly awful it was going to be, compiled all the worst scenarios, and used that as my frame of reference whenever I thought about parenting. When I was pregnant I’d tell G that the first year was “baby boot camp” and we needed to be ready for every single day to completely suck. It was going to be the hardest year of our lives and if there were a handful of good days thrown in there then we should consider ourselves lucky. I was prepared to not feel a connection to Kate, to feel miserable due to the lack of sleep, to cry everyday, and I was convinced I’d have postpartum depression.

But then Kate arrived and to my surprise I felt that instant surge of love and joy...and it hasn't let up since. I smile and laugh every single day and thank God every single night.

I feel happy.

I truly do.

So what the hell happened?

I honestly don’t know. Maybe I got lucky? Maybe I'm in denial? Maybe my perspective of parenting was so incredibly crazy that anything short of that seems amazing? Maybe I'm conveniently forgetting those tough moments, days, weeks--a little bit of "momnesia" perhaps? Even now--almost seven months in to what I surely expected to be The Year from Hell--I can count on one hand the number of times I've thought, "I'm not sure I can do this." With the exception of a very disgusting ear wax situation, each of those times had little to do with Kate and everything to do with not taking good enough care of myself.

I'm not saying that parenting is easy, because it is without question the hardest thing I've ever done. Nor am I trying to discount the serious emotional struggles that are so common for new parents. My point is there's no shortage of people who will tell you how miserable that first year is, but I'd like to share a different perspective--one I wish I had heard more often. I'd like to tell you that it is possible to be a new mom and to love every day of it. It is possible to wear dark circles under your eyes and a smile on your face. It's possible that a 4am feeding may turn into one of your favorite times of the day. There may even be days when you put your baby to bed, pour yourself a glass of wine, look around at your dirty house, and bask in the beauty of it all.

It's possible.

Or maybe it's just momnesia.

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Kate: 5 Months


Time never went by so quickly before I was a parent.

Kate is now six months old (six months!) and still as happy and cheerful as ever. Over this past month (at five months old) she has just begun taking an interest in Chase (our greyhound) which has been so much fun to see. All she has to do is see Chase and she’ll burst into laughter. Greg and I work our asses off to get a giggle out of Kate--blowing on her little belly, making silly faces--we’ll do it whatever it takes to hear that magical sound. But apparently all Chase needs to do is breathe within Kate’s line of sight and nothing makes her happier.

Kate’s activity time continues to be filled with lots of excited jumping in her Jumperoo, leisurely swaying in her swing, walks around the neighborhood, and of course business meetings in her Command Center (aka the Exersaucer). She still enjoys her floor activity mat, but now that she’s getting older she requires more space. We lay a baby blanket on the living room floor next to her activity mat, toss a bunch of her toys on it, and she rolls and scooches her way all around the floor. We can already tell that once she gets the hang of crawling she is going to be fast! Her new development over this past month has been getting the hang of sitting up. She is just starting to be able to sit unassisted for short periods of time--about five to ten seconds--so we’ve introduced a couple of toys that are meant for more “sitting up play” which she enjoys.

Kate currently naps for about four hours during the day (split between either two or three naps) and goes to bed around 6:00pm, sleeping until about 6am. This little girl loves her sleep! We’ve been trying to push her bedtime back just a bit, but on most nights she barely even makes it to 6pm. Kate’s bedtime routine consists of a bath (we do them every three nights right now) or a face and neck washing, change into pajamas, and read a book (if she’s still alert enough and has the patience for it). Then we pull the blinds, turn off the lights and feed her a bedtime bottle in the rocking chair in her nursery. When she’s done with her bottle we put her in her crib “drowsy but awake,” offer her a pacifier, turn on a little fan in the room for some white noise, and then walk out and close the door. We’ve put Kate down “drowsy but awake” since she was born and we’re very lucky to say that she goes right to sleep on her own without any fussing. Although Kate sleeps for twelve hours at night, it’s rare that she will go the entire twelve hours without waking. I’d say about 75% of the time she wakes up for one middle of the night feeding and goes right back to sleep.

Kate gets five or six bottles each day and drinks about 5-7 ounces per bottle. Greg and I continue to be worried about her weight as her percentiles in that department keep dropping, but Kate makes it very clear when she’s had enough to eat, and when that happens there’s no convincing her otherwise! She will purse her lips together and stick the lower one out in a pout. Sometimes she’ll add a little spitting sound to really get her point across. And when push comes to shove she’ll block her mouth with the back of her hand until you’ve set the bottle down. She’s quite the clever girl!

I’m very surprised to say that Kate made it five months before getting sick. She’s had a runny nose for a day or two before, but this past month was her first time really truly being sick…and it wasn’t pretty. She caught some sort of stomach bug which caused lots and lots of vomiting. At first we thought it was just some heavy spit-up, but when she projectile vomited all over Greg and her rocking chair immediately following her morning bottle, we realized this was much more than spit up. Much, much more. I called our pediatrician’s office and they recommended giving her Pedialyte--which is gentler on baby bellies than formula--until she was able to keep something down, so off to the drugstore I went. I have to admit--all of the Pedialyte options caught me a bit off guard. There was grape, fruit punch, orange--so many fun flavors and colors! What’s a first-time mom to do? In the end I worried that if our little finicky eater was introduced to a fun fruit flavor she’d probably never go back to drinking her formula, so I go the boring clear unflavored kind. An hour later I was patting myself on the back for my brilliance in Pedialyte picking when Kate once again vomited all over me, the couch, and the living room floor…and her vomit was clear. Not fruit punch pink or grape-flavored purple. Score one for this first-time mom! Luckily we didn’t have to deal with vomit--clear or otherwise--for too long since Kate was feeling better and back to her old self in just a day or two.

The cutest thing to see over this past month is how Kate’s obsession with her hands has been replaced with an obsession with her feet. Every chance she gets those little toes go straight into her mouth!


Kate: 5 months

I'll end with some of my favorite expressions from Kate's 5 month pictures. Enjoy!

Serious baby:


Pouter face:


And our happy little girl!

Personalized onesie made by Amber from The Cotton Cupcake Shoppe.

Monday, July 12, 2010

Personalized Necklace

Allow me to introduce you to my current favorite piece of jewelry:


A handmade, distressed sterling silver necklace, personalized with my daughter's name from the Etsy Shop Jewelry by Katie M.

My friend Jill introduced me to Katie M's jewelry after her son Brady was born. We were chatting at her house and all of a sudden I noticed a small silver tag hanging from her neck with the word "Brady" stamped on it. It was so beautiful it took my breath away.

I had to have one.

Now this may sound a little crazy but wearing Kate's name around my neck makes me feel a little closer to her when we're apart. Plus it goes great with my Mom Uniform: Loose-fitting top? Check. Cardigan? Check. Added distraction? Colorful beaded necklace, heart-fluttering personalized necklace, designer handbag--check, check, check!


Top: Banana Republic
Cardigan: Old Navy
Jeans: Gap
Shoes: Nicole from DSW
Beaded Necklace: American Eagle
Personalized "Kate" necklace: Jewelry by Katie M
Handbag: Kate Spade

Friday, July 9, 2010

845

845 ounces of breast milk.

For those of you who have ever pumped an ounce of breast milk in your life, you know what that number means.

That is endless hours strapped to a pump. It is countless hours of lost sleep. It is an never-ending sea of pump parts and breast milk storage containers that need washing. It is soaked through nursing pads, t-shirts, and sheets. It's a nightly free show for all the neighbors and the risk that topless photos of me are splashed all over the internet. It was time I couldn't spend holding my child.

I couldn't let it all be for nothing.

We discovered that Kate has some kind of aversion toward my breast milk and have had to go with a 100% formula diet for her. I had continued pumping and storing breast milk while we went through all the trial and error with Kate, but early on there was a little voice in my head that said, "She's never going to drink this." The thought of dumping all that expressed milk down the drain was enough to make me ill, and I began thinking that there most be someone who could use it for their baby.

Well I'm very proud to report that I recently donated all 845 ounces of my breast milk to a "milk bank" where it will be pasteurized and distributed to babies in need--particularly premature babies who are failing to thrive or have life-threatening diseases or conditions. Knowing that makes every single minute strapped to that pump more than worth it. Lots of little babies get helped, I get my modesty back, Kate gets her much-desired synthetic nutrition, and G gets his Hot Pocket space back in the freezer--a win-win situation all around!

In honor of The Great Breast Milk Migration, I have decided to write a little love letter to a couple of very hard workers:

Dear Breasts,

Well hello you little overachievers, you! Congratulations on a job well done. Who knew something so small could produce so much? You're like the Ryan Seacrest of the breastfeeding world. Nice work.

I know Kate not wanting your milk was a hard pill to swallow, but look on the bright side--instead of feeding one baby now you'll be feeding hundreds! You've had a rough few months of poking, prodding, squeezing, and pulling, but for now your job is complete. Please return to your original size and upright position.

Love, Me


Check out my Facebook page for pictures of the little individually sealed bags that temporarily took over our freezers and my sanity.

Monday, July 5, 2010

Things Loved In June

1. Jillian Michaels' 30 Day Shred


Admittedly, this is more of a love/HATE relationship. Jillian Michael's 30 Day Shred workout DVD consists of three 20 minute strength, cardio, and ab workouts. All you need are hand weights, a mat, a bucketful of sweat, and a vocabulary guaranteed to make sailors blush. So far I'm only on level 2 (there are 3 levels total) but I already feel like I'm seeing results. If there's any chance my pre-baby body is under there someone, I'm pretty sure Jillian will be the one to beat it out of me!

2. ABC's The Bachelorette


Why do I keep watching these shows?? It must've been that sexy Weatherman that got me to tune in this time. With his love of showtunes and his ability to cry at the mere thought of kissing of woman--that's good stuff right there. Or maybe it was Crazy Kasey who's just looking to guard and protect, guard and protect, guard and protect, guard and protect someone's--ANYONE'S--heart? That's a tattoo he'll never regret, right? (Excuse me while I clean up the coffee I just spit all over my laptop.) Ali dodged a bullet with that whole Jake thing, so it'll be interesting to see how well she fends off the rest of the crazies. I'm pretty sure Kasey has a shield he could lend her.

3. Reading a book that had nothing to do with babies or parenting.


Reading a book for pleasure? When you have an infant??

Yes, it's possible.

I thought Kate would be in college before I'd have the time or energy to devote to reading a book that didn't drone on about how I should feed or sleep or entertain my child, but in June I decided to give it a shot. I committed to reading just one chapter per night, and still have the lights out by 9:30pm so I could get a good night's sleep. (The book was John Grisham's The Associate for those of you who are interested. I like his books but this one was just average in my opinion.) While the book didn't knock my socks off, I was very happy to be reading for entertainment again!

4. This top from Old Navy:


I've never worn this style of shirt before, but I recently ordered it from oldnavy.com and I love it. It is so comfortable and (hopefully) flattering that I wish I could wear it every day!

5. The song "Hey, Soul Sister" by Train. June was a slow "love" month, so I'll add my current favorite song to the list. It's just a fun, roll down the windows and belt it out, kind of song. Go ahead, you know you want to.

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